The most likely explanation is that after the initial failures of getting a job, most people restrict themselves into a shell. Sleeping and inactive every day, this is an unavoidable attempt at staying in the shell. Depression is the most likely byproduct of such a situation.
Instead of continuing to try, sometimes people give up. It’s unfortunate that no one is proud of you for doing this, but your actions are NOT EVIL, some persons might suggest. It is a mistake that everyone makes to a certain extent.
What you desperately need is someone to pull you out. At this stage, I presume you and your parents have tried everything. The only recourse I can see that can improve things is a therapist/psychiatrist/counselor. I know we don’t value those in such professions but I have tried them before and it worked. I could recommend a friend if you want. Only a professional can understand the root cause of your problem and slowly push you towards a path that will pull you out of this circle your life is stuck in.
There is a lot of social stigma with mental illness in the world. People consider genuinely depressed people to be just plain lazy. Just because they have overcome the limited problems they have faced this far, everyone must be able to overcome them. Ignore such people and focus on some tips I will be sharing with you about how you can write a compelling CV and get a job.
The truth is, at this point of your life, you need help, I am not insulting you neither is it an abuse. All you just need right now is help to overcome this challenge.
So, take time to see a counselor and instructions given to the letter.
Just keep trying and stay positive, when I finished my degree, I was totally employed and I couldn’t motivate the people around me about going to school as there was no tangible result of my education. I had over 100 rejection letters, obviously fresh out of University no experience was the usual excuse. You got to set aside a certain time every day mon-fri. 1.5 hours or 2 hours and keep applying and persevering with it otherwise the rug gets deeper and deeper and harder and harder to come out of.
Volunteer… Anywhere you can….This will lift your spirits because
1.) You are active and need and you are solving problem. Part of the funk causing depression and rejection is having nothing to do.
2.) you will gain experience people would much rather employ someone that is doing volunteer work than someone that sits on the couch and eats because it shows that they have a drive to do things to keep active regardless of the money they get.
I once volunteered with Realm of Glory Charity foundation as an Administrative officer for a year before getting a paid job, it worked though as I have been shortlisted for many administrative positions over the years and the experience on my CV is a big deal.
3.) The opportunities to do things that bring joy and happiness into someone else’s life and expect nothing in return is one of the most fulfilling feelings you will ever get.
My work at Realm Of Glory Charity Foundation impacted hundreds of lives but the 1 persons life that it impacted the most was mine. it gave me an immense sense of pride…….and i did it for nothing and expected nothing in return but got more out of the experience that i ever dreamed i would.
Resume Writing Tips
- Start with a clear description of the type of role you are applying for. Keep it precise to the point (e.g marketing Manager, Senior Engineer, and Administrative Assistant etc.) Hiring Managers are busy and they probably have multiple vacancies to fill. Make it easy for them to know where you fit.
- Customize that description when applying for a specific position. If your resume is headed ‘Administrative Assistant’ but you’re applying for a position billed as an Executive Assistant, then change the header to reflect that title. You can find some customized Resume online.
Lots of persons use just one CV to apply for various openings and things don’t work that way. You must make sure your CV fits in to the specific roles you are applying for.
- Before you get into your career history, give a brief but concise description of how you add value. Don’t use a jumble of over-used words or professional jargon. Just describe what makes you a valuable employee in your own words.
For example, one resume I saw recently started with “fiercely competitive sales manager who never gives up, is passionate about his product and knows how to use that passion to convert leads into loyal customers.” That might not be the best sentence construction in the world, but it’s so much more compelling than the standard “Accomplished sales manager with 15 years of experience and a proven record of results.”
- Inject your personality all the way through your resume. Don’t feel confused in by resume conventions about word choice. Write as you would speak in the interview.
- Replace passive words with active verbs. Eliminate things like ‘responsible for managing team of’ Instead say ‘manage team of 14’ or even better ‘lead and motivate team of 14.’
- Spend no more than 3 or 4 sentences per position describing your job responsibilities. Unless you have a really unusual job, employers know the general outlines of your job responsibilities. And they don’t care what you were supposed to do every day – they want to know what you did do.
- Focus 90% of your content on the impact you have made. Describe the changes you made, the actions you took, the problems you solved, the results you delivered. And wherever possible, quantify.
- Always provide context. If you tell me that you increased sales by 15%, I have no idea whether that is good, bad or average for your company and/or your industry. But if you say ‘increased sales 15% during market downturn when most competitors were losing ground,’ now I understand the accomplishment.
- Format your resume nicely with plenty of white space. There are lots of resume samples online – choose a simple, clean style that highlights your key skills and selling points.
- Include a link to a well-written LinkedIn profile, visual CV or online portfolio that is stacked with great endorsements. Many people will click through and all those glowing endorsements will help make your case
- Make sure that your resume contains all the keywords employers in your field generally look for. To find out what these are, look at job postings and note all the words that appear frequently. Doing so will help you get past automated applicant systems and inexperienced HR screeners.
- Choose a common system font for your resume. A fancy font may look nice but will actually hurt your chances because if the recipient doesn’t have that same font installed, your resume will lose all its formatting and appear highly unprofessional.
- Recommendations (Not Compulsory)
Add a few recommendations from your seniors and peers. For students / grads, you can get recommendations from your professors. In case you have been an intern, insure to get recommendation from your mentor at the organization where you did your internship.
On the other hand, you can write what other people said about you. Use LinkedIn testimonials, quotes from performance reviews, product reviews or client ‘thank you’ notes to give a perspective other than your own. (Just make sure you can back up the quotes if asked for evidence that they are real!)
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